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I’m out of rehab, now what

Going thru a rehab program whether for chemical dependency or an eating disorder can be a life changing experience.  The habits you create in the first few months after discharge are vital to lasting recovery.  There are a few important things to keep in mind as you go back out into the world.

Stay in touch with your peers.  There is nothing like the support and friendship of someone who knows what you are going through, and has been there themselves.  Make it a priority in your weekly schedule. This could be in the form of 12-step meetings or other support groups.  Plan to include groups, meetings and phone calls/texts with people who you can reach out to.  Don’t wait for a crisis, do at least one of these things every day.

Get good professional help.  Peer groups are great, and they are not everything.  The help of an individual therapist can move you further towards your goals in recovery.  Rehab programs can only go so far, your personal recovery is unique. The life experiences that got you there in the first place need to be explored and worked through so they cease to have the power over you that they once did.

Keep a positive attitude.  Remember that you are already well on your way in your recovery.  As challenges come up they can be thought of as overwhelming or as opportunities for more growth.  You will probably be faced with some of the wreckage of the past, and your ability to navigate these obstacles is heightened by a good attitude.

Remember, your recovery is up to you.  The power to move your life in a new direction is always within you.  Willingness, openness, and action are the qualities you will need.  Give yourself the tools you need to keep your recovery moving forward.

Beauty and Body Image

What Is Body Image?

  • How do you see yourself when you look at yourself in the mirror or in a photograph? What do you believe about your appearance?
  • How do you feel about your body? (weight, height, shape)
  • How do you feel In your body, not just About your body?

 

Negative Body Image:

  • Feeling ashamed, anxious or self-conscious about your body.
  • Feeling unattractive AND that your body size or shape is a sign of personal failure.
  • Awkward and uncomfortable feeling about moving around in your body.
  • A distorted perception of your shape (you think of part of your body unlike they really are).

 

Positive Body Image:

  • You feel proud and accepting of your body as unique to you alone.
  • You do not spend an unreasonable amount of time worrying about food, weight and calories.
  • While moving around you feel comfortable and confident in your body.

 

Some questions to ponder about yourself and your looks:

  • What messages about your body did you receive growing up?
  • What messages do you get now?
  • What messages do you tell yourself?

 

It is important, and feels better, to be gentle with ourselves.

We judge ourselves harshly – thinking that other women may see you as overweight – yet, the truth is, most of the other women are busy thinking the same thing, and so, don’t have time to judge you negatively.

There is hope to change all of that thinking.  I use a gentle, intuitive approach in therapy  that will help you get  in touch with the person you  were meant to be, in the body you have.  You can get to a natual, stable, perfect weight for yourself without constantly being on a diet, and having to always wonder if a food is right, wrong, or ok.  Please give me a call for more information, or to make an appointment to start the process today.

 

 

Here are some links that deal with problems of negative body image:

http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art30227.asp

http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/nedaDir/files/documents/handouts/20WaysTo.pdf

http://www.something-fishy.org/

http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/